Woman leaves blind date after the first 5 minutes due to a "strong gut feeling", despite man driving long-distance to meet her: 'The moment we met, he gave off very annoyed and angry vibes'

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Emma Saven
Nov 29, 2025 6:00 PM EST

We've been sitting here for the last fifteen minutes trying to debate what could possibly be worse than an awkward blind, first date…and we've got nothing. Nothing beats those clammy hands, horrendous ice-breaking dad-jokes, and every person's biggest fear, a potential catfish! You're just waiting for the initial awkwardness to fade, but it never does…and suddenly your watch becomes the most eye-catching thing you've seen all day. We always say the right person is not meant to make one feel nervous, but calm. So when you meet someone who makes you feel uneasy, it's often best advised to trust your instincts!

This woman met up with a man she met online, and within the first 5 minutes of meeting, she was already planning her exit strategy. Not necessarily because he was threatening as such, but because from the second he arrived, he was agitated, refused to order anything, and proved to her that chivalry is very much a thing of the past. So she decided that, despite having him drive a long way for their date, she was going to be honest about her feelings. Or in this case, not feelings. And before she could ever get her sentence out (approximately 10 minutes into the date), he was gone.

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  • Perhaps transparency is the key, because it saved this woman 2 hours of her life she'd never get back. She knew in her gut from the first 7 seconds, around exactly how long it takes to make a first impression, that they wouldn't be walking down the aisle together, and pushing their children on the park swings…Sometimes it's best to cut something off before it even begins, and 5 minutes into the date was most definitely that!

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  • I walked out within 5-10 min of a date

    Hey guys, as the title says, I cut a date short for the first time, literally within 5-10 minutes of meeting him.
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  • We met on a dating app and planned to meet tonight. I suggested a place close to me because going further into the city wasn't possible tonight, and he agreed.
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  • He drove quite a distance, which I genuinely appreciated. But the moment we met, he gave off very annoyed and angry vibes.
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  • The place we went to didn't seem to be his vibe, maybe because he doesn't drink, even though I mentioned they had mocktails.
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  • Then he suggested we go downstairs to the coffee shop, which was about to close soon.
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  • I tried making conversation to help things feel more comfortable, but whether he was nervous or not, he just seemed irritated.
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  • My gut was telling me something was off. I asked him a simple question about whether he moved to the country recently, and he responded in a way that felt defensive and almost angry, like, "Why would you think I moved here recently?" I told him I was just trying to get to know him.
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  • We went down to the café, but since it was closing soon, he didn't want to get anything.
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  • I suggested we could go to another place, but as soon as we stepped outside, my discomfort got stronger.
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  • He hadn't smiled once, he seemed tense and pissed off for reasons I couldn't understand, and I just didn't feel safe or comfortable continuing.
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  • Right before we walked further, I told him I wasn't feeling it. Before I could even finish, he just walked off.
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  • And this isn't a huge thing, but it does matter to me: he barely even opened the door while we were walking out.
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  • I was the one doing it. It may seem small, but I'm looking for a chivalrous man, and it honestly annoyed me.
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  • So... AITA? I did feel bad because he drove a long way, but I honestly couldn't continue the date.
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  • EthylPaige What made you ask him if he just moved to the country youre in?
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  • OP Electronic_Jelly_170 He has a thick accent and I didn't ask him to offend him was literaly just a question? I don't truly see this as offensive. I'm not from that country either but I lived here for about ten years and I don't have an accent and people do ask me if I moved recently I never take offence to that. I don't get it Imao
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  • Fragrant-Duty-9015 INFO: Do you look like your pictures?
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  • OP Electronic_Jelly_170 yeah lol, i never edit my pics, idk if he was nervous or mad about driving far he just was giving off vibes of an short tempered man and had a thick accent therefore i asked if he moved to the country recently. I never had to do this on any of my dates. ever
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  • TheWaco Fogey NTA. You have to trust your instincts in these situations. That's especially true on first blind-ish dates, when you really have no idea who the person is or whether they can be trusted. Plus: This was him at the point when he would presumably put his best foot forward. Imagine what a second hour with this guy would have been like, let alone a second date. You dodged a bullet.
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  • NTA. Capital-Yogurt6148 You absolutely did the right thing. Trust your gut. You have good instincts.
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  • SouthOrlandoFather NTA. I am guessing once he was 75% into his long drive he questioned why he drove so far and regretted his decision.
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  • Lis519-7148 I don't care much about opening the door, but if I don't have a good feeling, it's okay to get out of there.
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  • catlady7667 NTA. I regret not trusting my instincts about a person several times.
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  • Impossible-Link2623 Always trust your gut.
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